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Posted: Sun Oct 17, 2004 6:22 am
by Drood
Finally signed up rather than just posting.

The thing that gets me with LiT is the fact that I've been there myself. In a situation where I was with someone, and despite the mutual attraction, we couldn't act on it. It's funny actually, I've been in both situations. Both the younger and the older person.

Plus I moved to Canada eight years ago from England. Felt very lost. Overawed. I can really relate to the "new country" thing in the movie. Feeling out of place etc...

The movie makes my heart hurt, but in a good way if that makes sense.

Posted: Mon Oct 18, 2004 10:38 pm
by Guest
Drood wrote:Finally signed up rather than just posting.
Welcome!

Yes it all makes sense to us here!

Posted: Tue May 24, 2005 8:46 pm
by 52FM
This is an old thread, but I thought I'd try a post here.

Saw LiT over a month ago and have thought of it every day. Same stomach punch feeling. It's getting disruptive - but it comes from my relating it to my own experience (that I've posted in other threads).

I'm too old to feel this way about a movie. The feeling is envy for Bob - he had closure - and a wonderful memory of a deep connection he can carry forever. I had a chance at that - and ruined it by trying to continue the relationship long past the time it shoudl have ended.

I was over it for more than 5 years - and then I see this movie...

Posted: Sat May 28, 2005 4:09 am
by jml98
52FM wrote: I'm too old to feel this way about a movie.
why's that?

Posted: Sat May 28, 2005 10:15 am
by 52FM
Not too old to appreciate it. But but at 50-something too old to be thinking of it so much.

I thought my "Bob" period was over years ago. Maybe it isn't . Maybe it's back. Maybe I buried it and the movie brought it back. Maybe I just need to keep working it out.

Maybe with the fast pace of life guys now can have two mid-life crises.

Great.

Posted: Mon May 30, 2005 9:20 am
by WhoFeelsLove
52FM wrote:Not too old to appreciate it. But but at 50-something too old to be thinking of it so much.

I thought my "Bob" period was over years ago. Maybe it isn't . Maybe it's back. Maybe I buried it and the movie brought it back. Maybe I just need to keep working it out.

Maybe with the fast pace of life guys now can have two mid-life crises.

Great.
Is there anyway you can get closure on it?

Posted: Tue May 31, 2005 9:56 am
by 52FM
"Is there anyway you can get closure on it?"

I'm working on it and this board and the people on it are a big help.

Posted: Tue May 31, 2005 9:43 pm
by WhoFeelsLove
good to hear :D

Posted: Fri Jun 10, 2005 2:09 am
by Lochlain
hi... I'm 21... will be this september.
Ever since I saw LIT I feel lonely. It's a strange feeling... hard to describe. Bitter-numb-disturbing-unclear-confusing feeling inside you. I don't like it.
This film made me think about lots of things... It showed me who I am. Not sure I like it. Anyway I didn't change anything in my behaviour.
Now I see things clearer... at least I think so... All those stupid games people play.

Posted: Fri Jun 10, 2005 4:43 am
by jm
"[quote:b67fee1a6c="Lochlain"]hi... I'm 21... will be this september.
Ever since I saw LIT I feel lonely. It's a strange feeling... hard to describe. Bitter-numb-disturbing-unclear-confusing feeling inside you. I don't like it.
This film made me think about lots of things... It showed me who I am. Not sure I like it. Anyway I didn't change anything in my behaviour.
Now I see things clearer... at least I think so... All those stupid games people play.[/quote:b67fee1a6c]
A warm welcome to you. If you want to tell us some details about your reaction to LIT, please do!"

Posted: Fri Jun 10, 2005 6:47 am
by Lochlain
johnmonkey wrote:
Lochlain wrote:hi... I'm 21... will be this september.
Ever since I saw LIT I feel lonely. It's a strange feeling... hard to describe. Bitter-numb-disturbing-unclear-confusing feeling inside you. I don't like it.
This film made me think about lots of things... It showed me who I am. Not sure I like it. Anyway I didn't change anything in my behaviour.
Now I see things clearer... at least I think so... All those stupid games people play.
A warm welcome to you. If you want to tell us some details about your reaction to LIT, please do!
maybe later...

Posted: Fri Jun 10, 2005 10:46 am
by Congruous
I may sound like a bonehead, but to me the movie has a triumphant feel to it at the end. The only other movie that has given me such a jolt is "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest," when Chief pulled that thing out of the floor and bashed it through the wall and that eerie music was playing. That made my hair stand on end.

This one jolted me because Bob had been such a dumb goofball and Charlotte had pulled him back into enjoying life again and he had just stood there gazing at her in the lobby before he left while she was waiting for him to say something special. That was a bit of a bummer, but then a few minutes later when he hugged and kissed her and she was so ecstatically happy (this didn't look like acting to me) and that awesome music started playing, I just went, "WOW!"

Posted: Fri Jun 10, 2005 1:16 pm
by You Make it Easy
That feeling we all had is undescribable.

Posted: Fri Jun 10, 2005 9:37 pm
by 52FM
Lochlain -
A lot of people here describe that feeling as like being kicked in the stomach. It's how I felt at the end.

It's amazing to me that Sofia was able to recreate a mood that so many peole so personally connect to. Over many age groups. I think if you ever felt like Bob or Charlotte and you start to get into that mood as you are watching LiT - you are probalby going to feel like you describe.

Another way I've heard it described is being in a trance - that seems to last for several days. Hard to get it out of your mind.

Anyway - you're with people here who understand.

Posted: Fri Jun 10, 2005 10:52 pm
by atlashrugged
A lot of people here describe that feeling as like being kicked in the stomach. It's how I felt at the end.

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Another way I've heard it described is being in a trance - that seems to last for several days. Hard to get it out of your mind.
That's a great description. There's a reaction on a few levels and it's hard to articulate.

I felt like I was being swept up in something, a bit reluctantly but only for that fact that the relationship was definite. There were a lot of variables as to what could've happened during the course of the movie; it wouldn't be a typical relationship and its span could seem infinite only in that it ends in Tokyo but it's what they take with them when they leave.

Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2005 4:16 am
by Lochlain
52FM wrote:Lochlain -
A lot of people here describe that feeling as like being kicked in the stomach. It's how I felt at the end.

It's amazing to me that Sofia was able to recreate a mood that so many peole so personally connect to. Over many age groups. I think if you ever felt like Bob or Charlotte and you start to get into that mood as you are watching LiT - you are probalby going to feel like you describe.

Another way I've heard it described is being in a trance - that seems to last for several days. Hard to get it out of your mind.
I guess I felt both... And it was after I saw trailer - I managed to see film only 6 months later.
52FM wrote: Anyway - you're with people here who understand.
Yeah I know

Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2005 5:42 am
by jeffyen
I felt punched in the stomach when the movie ended, then was became a zombie for the next 3 days. Then I watched it again. In total, I watched it 5 times for the next few weeks LOL

Posted: Sun Jun 12, 2005 11:21 pm
by 52FM
"...it wouldn't be a typical relationship and its span could seem infinite only in that it ends in Tokyo but it's what they take with them when they leave."

That was very well said, Atlas. I've heard a few people describe it like that - a wonderful feeling or memory that can last forever because reality will never get in the way and ruin it.

Posted: Mon Jun 13, 2005 7:11 am
by atlashrugged
That was very well said, Atlas. I've heard a few people describe it like that - a wonderful feeling or memory that can last forever because reality will never get in the way and ruin it.
Thanks. I'm just glad it was somewhat understandable. It's difficult to articulate a feeling.

That's what makes good movies great, I think. After you've seen this movie it stays with you. Then it'll return, the feeling of being swept up or swept away, if you come upon an experience in your own future that's just as fleeting.

Posted: Mon Jun 13, 2005 9:33 am
by 52FM
"Then it'll return, the feeling of being swept up or swept away, if you come upon an experience in your own future that's just as fleeting."

Unfortunately, I needed LiT's lesson years ago. But oddly enough learning, so to speak, from Bob actually helped me deal with issues I thought were resolved but were buried. This was a very meaningful movie to me on a personal level. I doubt Sofia has any idea how important LiT is/was to many people because of how real it was.